I Don’t Want You to Be Happy
We chase happiness like it’s something we can earn by finding the right job, the right partner, the right moment. But joy doesn’t work that way. Joy lives within us. It’s the quiet confidence that we are enough, right now, just as we are.
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Episode 022 Full Episode
Ben Walters: [00:00:00] Ben with SuperPumped podcast and I wanna tell you today why I don't really have much interest in whether you are happy or your kids are happy or your significant other is happy. And that may sound strange to you because I'm Mr. SuperPumped, right? I want people to live SuperPumped lives. And yet, what I'm telling you today is your happiness is not of my utmost importance.
Ben Walters: We have added this Sunday SuperPumped Life podcast and it is more of a spiritual bent. I'm gonna do something a little bit more spiritual because I am a pastor and if you like that, I would love for you to continue to engage with it.
Ben Walters: But if it's not your vibe, that's okay too. Last week we talked about how this is our Advent set up and I've got my brother Tony here today. Last week we lit the candle of peace. So we're gonna light that again. And then this week we are going to light a second candle and I'm gonna hold out telling you what that candle is. This is the mystery candle over here.
Ben Walters: So we've got our [00:01:00] two candles burning. A lot of people I talk to, especially my age, we talk about our kids. That's just something that happens naturally. A lot of my peers will say, all I want for my kids is for them to be happy. And that sounds great, right? Everybody wants to be happy, seemingly. And yet, the secondary thing, all I want my kids to do is be happy is then they launch into what is preventing them from being happy. They just need to get through school and then they'll be happy or they're lonely so if they could just meet somebody, I know they would be happy. That's the precursor to happiness. Or I just want 'em to find that, that job that fulfills them and, and then they're gonna be happy. There become all these conditions on their happiness. Well, the reality is all those things. To a large degree, are external and a lot of them [00:02:00] are beyond their control.
Ben Walters: The economy right now, not every kid who comes out of school, whether that's high school or college or a GED, is gonna find that fulfilling dream job, right? That's just the reality. Finding vocational happiness is a bit elusive. And then when we think about matching up with partners, you know you're gonna go down a lot of heartbreak road. So if your happiness is then tied to that, that's also tough. And then this whole idea of, you know, your circumstance is gonna make you happy. Are we saying that in order to be happy, you have to have the perfect job and you have to have the perfect partner and you have to have the perfect conditions and perfect bank account. That's a pretty tall order, right?
Ben Walters: Because many of those things, even though we're striving for those, those are elusive. Those are beyond our control. Unlike happiness, though, joy, which is the second candle today, mystery revealed. Is intrinsic. [00:03:00] Joy is something within us that isn't predicated on our external circumstances.
Ben Walters: So you can have profound joy as a human being and have a terrible job, a job you don't like, a job maybe that has no meaning to you. You can still be missing out on that elusive, perfect relationship and yet still have joy within you. Because joy, unlike happiness is rooted in who we are. Joy is the idea that I am worthy, I am blessed, I have value because I exist, not because of what I do or how I do it or how I interact with people. That joy is because I am me.
Ben Walters: And if you find that place in your life. You are going to just be so much [00:04:00] better off, so much more SuperPumped. So this holiday season, as you think about joy, I want you to wish for yourself and for your loved ones, that they find that inner joy within them. And if they do that, not only is this season going to be special, but their life is gonna be special. This has been our SuperPumped moment. Thanks for joining me. If you want more resources, hit me up or go to superpumped.com.
Ben Walters: Thanks for joining me today on the SuperPumped Life podcast. If you enjoyed today's show, I have two really quick next steps for you. First, subscribe or follow us on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube so you don't miss future shows. And second, jump on
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Ben Walters: Keep well and I'll see you [00:05:00] next time.
